If you have already set up home together, or have inherited all the china and silverware you could possibly need, you may be feeling that a traditional gift list is inappropriate. It has become increasingly acceptable to ask your guests to contribute towards one really big item, such as a piece of art or furniture, or even a house deposit or honeymoon; anything that they know you will really appreciate.
If yours is a second marriage you may feel embarrassed at the prospect of receiving gifts, particularly from guests who also gave you a gift at your first wedding, however your guests will feel equally embarrassed at not offering a gift. A charitable gift list may be the answer, where you nominate a particular charity that you would like to support and ask guests to make a contribution to that charity. For your special day to have changed the lives of so many people less fortunate is a wonderful legacy, and non-profit making companies such as The Alternative Wedding List can administer the list for you. Many couples now have a charitable gift list running alongside their main list, to give guests the choice.
If you are opting for a traditional gift list it is worth registering with a web based company as well as a high street store, to make it easy for all of your guests to use one or other option, particularly for last minute purchases. It is acceptable with all but the most formal invitations to include a discreet card with details of where your gift list has been registered.
