Updated 25th March 2023
In this episode of The Wedding Fixer, Sarah Haywood is brought in with just 6 weeks to save the big day of Naomi and Lee. Naomi wanted to be in control of all aspects of the day. Whereas, Lee was the much more laid back of the pair. In the episode, we see strong-minded Naomi be incredibly particular about her day and completely obsess over the minor details.
Naomi was a self-confessed Bridezilla and prone to being overwhelmed. Despite this, she was intent on doing her own flowers for the day. With her refusal to trust the professionals to handle aspects of the day, we see Sarah try to get Naomi to relinquish some control.
So, how do you curb your partner’s obsession with the wedding? Perhaps, you are noticing your obsession starting to cause issues in your planning. We asked Sarah Haywood for her advice.
Find a sense of perspective
Sarah stresses that you should find a sense of perspective and remember what is most important. If this is your planning issue, you should focus on the bigger issues before moving into the detail of the day. Remember what is most important about the day and ensure you prioritise this before the minor things.
Sarah’s Tip: ‘I remember when I was getting married, I got obsessed over the colour of table napkins. In doing so, I missed many other important things… Stay on top of the tasks that really need doing. Don’t get too bogged down in the details until those big tasks have been completed.’
Listen to the advice of the professionals
The reason you hire wedding professionals to supply elements of your wedding is because you don't necessarily have the skills yourself. Like Naomi, you may be good with flowers, but you probably don’t have the skills of a professional florist. Accept the fact that someone else with all the skills will be able to handle this for you and trust that they will deliver! Ensure you set these expectations when you have your consultation with them too.
As Sarah pointedly said in the episode: ‘Taking advice isn’t a sign of weakness or that you can’t do it yourself. We all need a helping hand sometimes.’
Stay organised
Being organised is the key. Make sure you are keeping on top of your planning, focusing on the big, important elements before getting into the minute details. While keeping organised can sometimes be tough, just imagine how stressed you would be if you were unorganised. Keeping organised will be worth it, allowing you to effectively deal with any issues that arise and have your dream wedding day without a hitch.
Sarah’s tip: Keeping organised will ‘help you keep a sense of perspective. And always remember, being organised is the key to successful and stress-free wedding planning’.
Watch the latest episodes of The Wedding Fixer on BBC Three and iPlayer.