Did you know that 80% of modern brides will uphold tradition and take their partners’ name when they get married? However, many still want to consider their options before deciding on their married surname. We spoke to our partners at NameSwitch to guide and advise you through this difficult decision and how to ease the tedious process if you do decide on a change!
Changing your surname may feel difficult...
Naturally, you will already have some attachment to your surname. After all, you’ve had it all your life! Your title and surname contributes significantly to your identity and the way you present yourself to the wider world. In many situations, people you interact with may know you entirely by your second name, for example, if you are a teacher.
For some, the thought of changing their name can feel like losing touch with a part of their identity and heritage. After all, your current surname links you to family, your education, your career and your life to date! These are undoubtedly difficult things to lose touch with.
Also, as the average age of a bride is increasing, you may have an even deeper connection to your birth name by the time you say ‘I Do’. You may have built professional reputation using your maiden name, for example. However, don't forget that there is the option to keep your professional name to avoid confusion in your career but be known as Mrs "X" in other, more personal settings.
However, there are common reasons to consider it!
On the other hand, there's looking forward to the future. Many feel that changing to a married surname represents your future partnership with your husband or wife to-be; your new family unit and ties to any potential future children.
Many see taking their partner’s name as a way to create a new family united by one surname. Some couples may also see it as their ‘team name’, especially if they plan to add mini-team members further down the line!
It can also be a link to tradition, the age-old practice of taking a new surname, just like wearing your wedding rings bears a symbol of your commitment to one another. For others, it’s simply seen as an exciting and natural thing to do – to have a new title, name and signature that ties together the new you!
But it doesn’t have to be either/or!
Alternative approaches to deciding on a married surname that can offer the perfect compromise; we've seen a real rise in this over recent years. For example, double-barrel surnames are becoming more popular than you might think! By both parties keeping their names, your married surname can symbolise equality yet also respect tradition.
Another increasing trend amongst modern newlyweds is the creation of their very own new name! You can create your unique name by fusing your surnames (known as meshing) or choosing an entirely new name that you identify with as a couple.
So, how do you make your decision?
Ultimately, your surname is, obviously, an incredibly personal thing and how you view it will be different to everyone else. The reasons for keeping or changing your name are as varied as the brides themselves, and all views on this are equally valid. At the end of the day, it’s a personal, yet important, decision as you need to feel comfortable with it for the rest of your life.
While a wedding does tend to bring out the opinions of certain family members on pretty much everything, be careful not to include them in your name change discussions until you and your partner are confident in your own decisions. Sharing your thoughts too early can invite unwanted opinions and confusion!
The only person you need to include in this decision is your partner. It’s an important choice for both of you, so make sure you include them in your deliberations. You'll need to be on the same page, especially if you are considering a double-barrelled or meshed married surname.
Don’t worry about the paperwork!
Whatever you choose, your married surname decision should be based entirely on what feels right for you and not on how you feel about the paperwork! Changing your name can seem like a tedious process which may put you off some of the options we have discussed. NameSwitch can help you there!
NameSwitch was established to help take the effort out of making the change. They ensure the process is as easy as possible for you by saving you hours, or even days, researching policies and processes, writing letters and filling out forms. NameSwitch uses smart, secure automation to populate the forms and letters you’ll need to send out to change your details. So, all you need to do is sign them and pop them in the post! This is a brilliant service for UK couples that makes it easy to let government bodies and companies know about the change – whatever decision you’ve made. Watch the video below to get more of an insight:
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So, take the time to make a decision that feels like a perfect fit for you – and then let NameSwitch take care of the rest!